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FL BDSM Checklist
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This checklist is designed for anyone interested in BDSM, whether new or experienced. I have tried to include most of the main activities that you would see in a BDSM club, or that you might try at home. I have also included a space for safe words, red limits, any health concerns and aftercare.
The checklist is designed for anyone (i.e. Doms/Tops/givers, subs/bottoms/receivers, Switches etc.)
If you would like to contact me with any feedback etc. I can be found as Juggler10000 on fetlife.com.
Activities
For each activity, there are four boxes:
The first is whether you have ever tried the activity (Yes/No).
The second is whether you wish to experience the activity on a scale of 0-5 as a giver
0 = a hard limit.
1 = a soft limit.
2 = I do not wish to try this but will do so to please my partner
3 = I am ambivalent about this
4 = I enjoy this
5 = I love this
The third is whether you wish to experience the activity on a scale of 0-5 as a receiver
0 = a hard limit.
1 = a soft limit.
2 = I do not wish to try this but will do so to please my partner
3 = I am ambivalent about this
4 = I enjoy this
5 = I love this
The fourth box gives you the opportunity to write in any notes (perhaps you would only like a particular activity on a certain part of the body, or only in certain role plays etc.)
Restraints
| Activity |
Tried (Y/N) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver) |
Notes |
| Rope |
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| Chains |
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| Cable ties |
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| Cuffs (metal/leather) |
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Impact (play)
| Activity |
Tried (Y/N) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver) |
Notes |
| Hands |
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| Floggers |
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| Paddles |
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| Tawse |
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| Belt |
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| Crops |
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| Canes |
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| Whips (short) (stock etc.) |
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| Whips (long) (bull etc.) |
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| Punching |
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| Kicking |
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Impact (parts of the body)
| Activity |
Tried (Y/N) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver) |
Notes |
| Face (slapping) |
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| Breasts |
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| Nipples |
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| Shoulders/back |
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| bottom |
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| Thighs (lower) |
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| Thighs (upper) |
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| Genitals |
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| Feet |
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Sensation
| Activity |
Tried (Y/N) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver) |
Notes |
| Stroking |
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| Tickling |
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| Hair play (gentle) |
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| Hair pulling (for pain) |
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| Nettles |
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| Chilli |
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| Ice |
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| Wax |
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| Figging (ginger) |
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Gags
| Activity |
Tried (Y/N) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver) |
Notes |
| Tongue press |
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| Breathable gag |
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| Ball gag |
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| Inflatable gag |
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| Ring gag |
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Rope
| Activity |
Tried (Y/N) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver) |
Notes |
| Artistic (Shibari) |
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| Bondage (general) |
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| Bondage (breast) |
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| Suspension (partial) |
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| Suspension (full) |
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Sensory Deprivation
| Activity |
Tried (Y/N) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver) |
Notes |
| Hoods |
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| Blindfolds |
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| Earplugs |
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Blood play
| Activity |
Tried (Y/N) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver) |
Notes |
| Play piercing |
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| Staples |
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| Vampire gloves |
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| Pinwheels |
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| Knives (cutting) |
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| Spiked paddles |
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Breath play
| Activity |
Tried (Y/N) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver) |
Notes |
| Hand over mouth |
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| Choking (with hand) |
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| Choking (with belt) |
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| Bagging |
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| Under water |
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| Gas mask |
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Electrical play
| Activity |
Tried (Y/N) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver) |
Notes |
| TENS |
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| Violet wand |
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| E-Stim |
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| Shock devices |
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Watersports (pissing)
| Activity |
Tried (Y/N) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver) |
Notes |
| On body |
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| On face |
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| In mouth |
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| Through funnel |
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Scat Play (Poop)
| Activity |
Tried (Y/N) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver) |
Notes |
| Simulated |
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| Actual |
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Sexual play
| Activity |
Tried (Y/N) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver) |
Notes |
| Kissing (open mouth) |
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| Vibrators |
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| Breasts/nipples |
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| Oral |
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| Orgasm control (asking permission) |
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| Orgasm control (forced) |
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| Orgasm control (denial/edging) |
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| Genital (touching) |
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| Genital (penetration, with toys) |
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| Genital (penetration, with body) |
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| Bukkake |
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| Anal play (non-penetrative) |
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| Anal play (rimming) |
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| Anal hooks |
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| Anal penetration (with toys) |
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| Anal penetration (with body) |
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Role play
| Activity |
Tried (Y/N) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver) |
Notes |
| Kidnapping |
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| Interrogation |
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| Naughty schoolboy/girl |
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| Secretary |
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| Prisoner |
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| Military |
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| Other |
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D/s
| Activity |
Tried (Y/N) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver) |
Notes |
| Collar (in scene) |
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| Positions (e.g. Gorean etc.) |
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| Eye contact restrictions |
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| Speech restrictions |
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| Bathroom use control |
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| Honorifics (how someone is addressed e.g. Sir, Ma’am etc.) |
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Humiliation and Degradation
As this is such an emotive area, and is exceptionally individual, I would suggest using the notes section to list other particular activities/specific words etc. that are desired/limits
| Activity |
Tried (Y/N) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver) |
Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver) |
Notes |
| Humiliation (general) |
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| Degradation (general) |
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| Name calling |
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| Food play (WAM/ Sploshing) |
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| Human Furniture |
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| Writing on body |
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| Spitting |
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In the next section, there are a series of free text boxes asking about your limits, safewords, any health issues, aftercare, and any other information relating to play. Please fill these out as honestly and as fully as you can (if you have not played before, please say so).
Red Limits (anything you would never consent to in a scene)
Safewords (what words do you use to indicate you wish to carry on, pause or stop a scene). How will you indicate a safeword if you are unable to speak?
Do you have any health issues that may affect you playing? This may be anything from problems with joints, allergies, diabetes, heart problems, epilepsy, blood clots etc.
What kind of aftercare do you like to receive/give? This may include being left alone, cuddles, reassurance, checking in the next day etc.
Is there anything else you wish to include on the checklist? This may be additional information about likes and dislikes, or anything else you feel may be relevant
PDF link below.
https://www.twistedboudoir.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/BDSM-Checklist-TB.pdf
and in Docx format
https://www.twistedboudoir.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/BDSM-Checklist-.docx
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