FL BDSM Checklist 

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This checklist is designed for anyone interested in BDSM, whether new or experienced. I have tried to include most of the main activities that you would see in a BDSM club, or that you might try at home.  I have also included a space for safe words, red limits, any health concerns and aftercare. 

The checklist is designed for anyone (i.e. Doms/Tops/givers, subs/bottoms/receivers, Switches etc.) 

If you would like to contact me with any feedback etc. I can be found as Juggler10000 on fetlife.com.

Activities

For each activity, there are four boxes:  

The first is whether you have ever tried the activity (Yes/No).  

The second is whether you wish to experience the activity on a scale of 0-5 as a giver

0 = a hard limit.  

1 = a soft limit. 

2 = I do not wish to try this but will do so to please my partner 

3 = I am ambivalent about this 

4 = I enjoy this 

5 = I love this 

 

The third is whether you wish to experience the activity on a scale of 0-5 as a receiver

0 = a hard limit.  

1 = a soft limit. 

2 = I do not wish to try this but will do so to please my partner 

3 = I am ambivalent about this 

4 = I enjoy this 

5 = I love this 

 

The fourth box gives you the opportunity to write in any notes (perhaps you would only like a particular activity on a certain part of the body, or only in certain role plays etc.)

Restraints

Activity	Tried (Y/N)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver)	Notes
Rope
Chains
Cable ties
Cuffs (metal/leather)

 

Impact (play)

Activity	Tried (Y/N)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver)	Notes
Hands
Floggers
Paddles
Tawse
Belt
Crops
Canes
Whips (short) (stock etc.)
Whips (long) (bull etc.)
Punching
Kicking

 

Impact (parts of the body)

Activity	Tried (Y/N)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver)	Notes
Face (slapping)
Breasts
Nipples
Shoulders/back
bottom
Thighs (lower)
Thighs (upper)
Genitals
Feet

 

Sensation

Activity	Tried (Y/N)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver)	Notes
Stroking
Tickling
Hair play (gentle)
Hair pulling (for pain)
Nettles
Chilli
Ice
Wax
Figging (ginger)

 

Gags

Activity	Tried (Y/N)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver)	Notes
Tongue press
Breathable gag
Ball gag
Inflatable gag
Ring gag

 

Rope

Activity	Tried (Y/N)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver)	Notes
Artistic (Shibari)
Bondage (general)
Bondage (breast)
Suspension (partial)
Suspension (full)

 

Sensory Deprivation

Activity	Tried (Y/N)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver)	Notes
Hoods
Blindfolds
Earplugs

 

Blood play

Activity	Tried (Y/N)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver)	Notes
Play piercing
Staples
Vampire gloves
Pinwheels
Knives (cutting)
Spiked paddles

 

Breath play

Activity	Tried (Y/N)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver)	Notes
Hand over mouth
Choking (with hand)
Choking (with belt)
Bagging
Under water
Gas mask

 

Electrical play

Activity	Tried (Y/N)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver)	Notes
TENS
Violet wand
E-Stim
Shock devices

 

Watersports (pissing)

Activity	Tried (Y/N)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver)	Notes
On body
On face
In mouth
Through funnel

 

Scat Play (Poop)

Activity	Tried (Y/N)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver)	Notes
Simulated
Actual

 

Sexual play

Activity	Tried (Y/N)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver)	Notes
Kissing (open mouth)
Vibrators
Breasts/nipples
Oral
Orgasm control (asking permission)
Orgasm control (forced)
Orgasm control (denial/edging)
Genital (touching)
Genital (penetration, with toys)
Genital (penetration, with body)
Bukkake
Anal play (non-penetrative)
Anal play (rimming)
Anal hooks
Anal penetration (with toys)
Anal penetration (with body)

 

Role play

Activity	Tried (Y/N)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver)	Notes
Kidnapping
Interrogation
Naughty schoolboy/girl
Secretary
Prisoner
Military
Other

 

D/s

Activity	Tried (Y/N)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver)	Notes
Collar (in scene)
Positions (e.g. Gorean etc.)
Eye contact restrictions
Speech restrictions
Bathroom use control
Honorifics (how someone is addressed e.g. Sir, Ma’am etc.)

 

Humiliation and Degradation

As this is such an emotive area, and is exceptionally individual, I would suggest using the notes section to list other particular activities/specific words etc. that are desired/limits

Activity	Tried (Y/N)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Giver)	Wish to experience 0-5 (Receiver)	Notes
Humiliation (general)
Degradation (general)
Name calling
Food play (WAM/ Sploshing)
Human Furniture
Writing on body
Spitting

 

In the next section, there are a series of free text boxes asking about your limits, safewords, any health issues, aftercare, and any other information relating to play.  Please fill these out as honestly and as fully as you can (if you have not played before, please say so).

 

Red Limits (anything you would never consent to in a scene)

 

Safewords (what words do you use to indicate you wish to carry on, pause or stop a scene).  How will you indicate a safeword if you are unable to speak?

 

Do you have any health issues that may affect you playing?  This may be anything from problems with joints, allergies, diabetes, heart problems, epilepsy, blood clots etc.

 

What kind of aftercare do you like to receive/give? This may include being left alone, cuddles, reassurance, checking in the next day etc.

 

 

Is there anything else you wish to include on the checklist? This may be additional information about likes and dislikes, or anything else you feel may be relevant

PDF link below.

https://www.twistedboudoir.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/BDSM-Checklist-TB.pdf

and in Docx format

https://www.twistedboudoir.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2025/07/BDSM-Checklist-.docx